All you’ve got to do is- to their face- call yourself every name that they are harbouring about you, it’s that simple; it means you’re demonstrating understanding. Whatever adjective from your culture best describes the worst possible name they could think of for you- all you’ve got to do is look them in the eye and say you feel I am – that’s super simple, right? The thing is, it may sound easy- but it’s hard to do- but if you can do it- it can unlock a situation in a heartbeat.