One is: Do I trust you with my feelings? Do I think that you’re going to be a listener who is non-judgmental, or do I think you’re going to judge me—’Marc is weak because he’s anxious,’ or ‘Marc is a man and he’s feeling sad; dudes don’t feel sad.’ So if I think you’re going to judge me for my feelings, I’m going to be much more guarded about whether or not I express them.