“We found that individuals who habitually pushed away problems and difficulties, or those who opted to ignore their issues or avoid confronting them, tended to suffer more and fared less well overall. On the other hand, those who confronted their troubles directly, often seeking the support of others to navigate through these challenges, were the ones who exhibited the highest levels of resilience.”
— Robert J. Waldinger
Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

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Psychology

A growing archive of 3,000+ moments, drawn from every interview.

100% of anything I have ever felt uncomfortable about, embarrassed about or tried to hide…. When I embraced those things and flipped the script…. I felt freer, happier and more capable.

— AJ Mendez

Professional wrestler and WWE performer, known as AJ Lee

A lot of people assume that I would choose not to have bipolar disorder; but I'm grateful for it. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world, because I feel like all the ups and downs have formed who I am, and made be braver, tougher… more creative and more capable.

— AJ Mendez

Professional wrestler and WWE performer, known as AJ Lee

Early on, being told no helped me figure out what I wanted my yes's to be. I learned who I wanted to be from people telling me who I could not be.

— AJ Mendez

Professional wrestler and WWE performer, known as AJ Lee

You have to show 100% genuine emotion and personality through everything you do and allow that to connect to people. You cannot keep things inside because you think people won't accept you, or will think you're strange; just let your freak flag fly.

— AJ Mendez

Professional wrestler and WWE performer, known as AJ Lee

I'm a firm believer that creativity comes from restrictions, so I'm really grateful that I grew-up with so many restrictions around me. When you give someone complete freedom and a blank canvas, it could take forever to figure out what you want to do, but when you give people limitations and say, 'here's a canvas, but you can only paint with yellow..' – the wheels start turning, and you plan to get out of the box you're put in.

— AJ Mendez

Professional wrestler and WWE performer, known as AJ Lee

The inexpressible depth of music... easy to understand and yet so inexplicable, is due to the fact that it reproduces all of the emotions of our innermost being, but entirely without reality and remote from its pain.

— Hans Zimmer

Acclaimed film composer known for scores like The Lion King and Inception

We humans are a musical species no less than a linguistic one. We integrate all of these and 'construct' music in our minds using many different parts of the brain. And to this largely unconscious structural appreciation of music is added an often intense and profound emotional reaction to music.

— Hans Zimmer

Acclaimed film composer known for scores like The Lion King and Inception

The happier I become with myself, the less I buy… the better my bank account becomes, because I'm not buying nonsense that I never needed.

— Jameela Jamil

Actress & Mental Health Advocate; Host of "The Good Place

Brands work on the principle that if you break down people's confidence, they will be much more vulnerable to advertising, and much more likely to go out and consume… much more likely to buy things to fix problems they didn't even know they had if it weren't for brands breaking their confidence in the first place.

— Jameela Jamil

Actress & Mental Health Advocate; Host of "The Good Place

It sounds strange but my system came to me in a sort-of almost otherworldly way. It was very powerful.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

Every person is different, but every sale is the same.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

When you have the confidence that you really are an expert closer, you're a competent closer, the word no doesn't matter, because you know that there's going to be a certain number of no's and a certain number of yes's.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

Only when I spent a year and a half writing a book, did I realise how long it takes you to do something to get a tangible result. It makes you respect money more when it comes from something you create, rather than just trading back and forth with someone else's cash.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

Understanding sales cuts to the core of basically why people say yes, why people give you rejections, and what has to line up in someone's mind before they say yes. It doesn't matter what you're selling, it could be offline or online, tangible or intangible, expensive or inexpensive. It doesn't matter what it is.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

I don't think it's money that corrupts people, I really don't. I think it's the idea that when you make money without having a tangible creation attached to that money, it has no value.

— Jordan Belfort

Stock Broker Convicted of Fraud; Subject of "The Wolf of Wall Street

When we look at a photograph, knowing that it is a photograph, we have a distinctive kind of experience: a visual confrontation with remote but actual objects and events.

— David Bailey

Pioneering British fashion photographer who revolutionized 1960s portrait photography