“It seems, to me, that relationships are face to face things. There is no point in having a virtual relationship if you are never going to see those individuals again as it crowds your 'mental boxes'. To think of this in context, they are real cognitive limits.”
— Robin Dunbar
Evolutionary Psychologist Known for Dunbar's Number Theory

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Psychology

A growing archive of 3,000+ moments, drawn from every interview.

Anti-Jewish prejudice can be likened to a reservoir of water, accumulating over time, with some elements diminishing while new ones are added. Three concepts became central: supersessionism, conspiracy theories, and the stereotype of a special, negative affinity Jews had with money.

— David Feldman

The greatest risk often lies in people's biased perceptions of risk itself. These biases, both psychological and political, tend to lead to a dangerous underestimation of risk. Our advice, backed by data and methodologies we've developed, is focused on debiasing risk.

— Bent Flyvbjerg

Leading researcher on megaprojects, planning, and governance expert

While optimism is essential and beneficial in many aspects of life, it can become a hindrance in the realm of large-scale, costly projects. As highlighted in our book, misplaced optimism in multi-billion-dollar investments is particularly problematic. It often signals impending financial shortfalls.

— Bent Flyvbjerg

Leading researcher on megaprojects, planning, and governance expert

Games are not just a source of entertainment; they can be a tool for self-improvement, a way to understand decision-making and break free from suboptimal patterns. The initial lesson in any game is that natural talent alone isn't enough. Every time I encounter a new game, I think I might be naturally good at it, but that's rarely the case. However, the truth is empowering: with effort, you can become proficient at any game.

— Frank Lantz

Game designer and NYU professor known for game theory and interactive entertainment

I do believe there's something fundamentally essential about free play—the open-ended combination of elements not confined by a narrow context. This concept is vital not only to humanity but to life itself. Consider Johan Huizinga, the sociologist and anthropologist who, in his book 'Homo Ludens,' famously argued that play is a necessary precondition for culture. I find this perspective accurate.

— Frank Lantz

Game designer and NYU professor known for game theory and interactive entertainment

I see games as psychology experiments that we conduct on ourselves. This realization struck me while playing Sudoku. When you first encounter Sudoku, you're acutely aware of the rules you're applying to solve the puzzle. It's a conscious effort, like turning a crank and watching the puzzle get solved. However, as you progress, those initial heuristics, those rules of thumb, become internalized. You stop being aware of them; they become second nature, and you start focusing on more subtle, higher-level heuristics.

— Frank Lantz

Game designer and NYU professor known for game theory and interactive entertainment

My personal stance is to respond positively to any question, no matter how awkward or inappropriate. I believe it takes courage to ask, and even if the approach is off, the curiosity is commendable. The key is to create an environment where it's okay to be wrong, as long as there's a willingness to learn and engage respectfully.

— Stef Reid

British Paralympic sprinter and long jumper; multiple Paralympic medals

My sense of identity definitely evolved, becoming stronger due to the accident. It stripped away aspects I believed defined me, teaching me a profound lesson at 15: what truly defines me is unremovable. In essence, I learned that even if I lost every limb, my core identity – a hardworking, competitive, fun-loving person – would remain intact. Losses like money, job, or reputation can't diminish my inherent qualities – my fight, attitude, grace, and resolve.

— Stef Reid

British Paralympic sprinter and long jumper; multiple Paralympic medals

He describes mental wellness as an unwavering commitment to reality, regardless of the cost. Trauma, in this light, can be a powerful teacher, though its lessons often require revisiting. These moments offer a stark glimpse of reality, a contrast to the daily bombardment of trivial concerns.

— Stef Reid

British Paralympic sprinter and long jumper; multiple Paralympic medals

What excites me the most is offering something tangible that people can apply immediately to enhance their performance—not something that will start showing results a year down the line. There's a common misconception that improvement is complex and time-consuming. My goal is to change this mindset, guiding people to focus on specific, actionable steps they can take today.

— Dr. Dana Sinclair

An elite performer is distinguished not just by skill but by their ability to leverage their mindset to excel during critical moments. This redefines the notion of elite performance to include anyone and everyone. Regardless of the field, role, or domain, anyone can achieve elite status if they consistently deliver outstanding results and rise to the occasion when it's most crucial.

— Dr. Dana Sinclair

Superstitions are essentially our way of coping with the anxiety tied to impending events and their uncertain outcomes. It's not really about the earrings, tapping the door frame, or taking the same route to an event. These are just manifestations of anxiety creeping in. My aim is to encourage people to adopt more constructive strategies to manage this anxiety.

— Dr. Dana Sinclair

Confidence, after all, is simply one's belief in their own ability to accomplish a task or achieve a result. It's an elusive and abstract feeling. In my experience, many of the individuals I work with, including Olympians, often lack this so-called essential trait. My approach is always to redirect their focus from this nebulous concept of confidence to the concrete tasks at hand.

— Dr. Dana Sinclair

I believe the most effective strategy for maintaining resilience is mastering the art of self-soothing. The ability to calm oneself instantly, at any moment, stands out as a pivotal skill. It enables you to recover from setbacks and face adversity more effectively. Being able to soothe and calm yourself enhances your clarity of thought, which is invaluable during challenging times.

— Dr. Dana Sinclair

Social anxiety stems from the fear of being judged, criticised, or scrutinised. However, adopting a mindset of curiosity—deciding to learn and ask questions—can make those fears dissipate. When you shift your focus from worrying about judgment to engaging in learning and exploration, the anxiety naturally begins to fade away.

— Sara Jane Ho

I believe a key issue is this newfound ability to hide behind our screens, which gives a false sense of impunity, allowing people to express themselves without restraint. Moreover, the surge in social media use seems to be edging out genuine social interactions. The more time we spend glued to our screens, the less we engage in meaningful, real-world exchanges.

— Sara Jane Ho