Psychology

If you truly immerse yourself in a role, it's akin to spontaneously adopting an accent – suddenly, you find yourself expressing thoughts that seem to emerge from an unexplored facet of your personality. This latent potential has always existed within us.

Actor known for 1980s films like "St. Elmo's Fire

Truth be told, fatherhood was never a role I envisioned for myself, never an ambition I pursued. Yet now, I consider it the most defining aspect of my identity and my place in the world.

Actor known for 1980s films like "St. Elmo's Fire

In a peculiar way, failure can sometimes be simpler to grapple with. You can simply resist it, dismiss it with a defiant 'to hell with this, to hell with them', and return to square one. Conversely, success can be considerably more subtle and insidious.

Actor known for 1980s films like "St. Elmo's Fire

Success and fame, especially fame, can instigate fundamental shifts within us at a cellular level. The very nature of fame is peculiar; it's akin to an insatiable flame that ceaselessly yearns for more, compelling you to endlessly seek something, despite its ultimate emptiness.

Actor known for 1980s films like "St. Elmo's Fire

Relationships are an emotional exchange hub. We bestow energy upon one another, help each other de-stress, and ignite joy in each other's lives. However, we must acknowledge that the digital realm filters out a significant portion of our emotional bandwidth.

Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

When we crafted that phrase, it was because we saw a similarity with physical fitness. If you work out today, you don't return home and declare, 'Great, I'm finished, I never have to exercise again.' Those with the strongest social bonds diligently nurture them throughout their lives.

Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

When our original participants reached approximately 80 years of age, we asked what are your greatest sources of pride, and what are your deepest regrets? The predominant regret was the disproportionate time spent working and the inadequate time spent with loved ones.

Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

One of my Zen mentors authored a book entitled 'Ending the Pursuit of Happiness'. He criticises the concept of chasing happiness as a curative fantasy – the mistaken belief that happiness is an attainable, sustainable, and permanent state. No one is in a state of perpetual happiness.

Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

We found that those who enjoyed the best health, and not just the greatest happiness, were the individuals who had nurtured stronger relationships with others. From this, we deduced that those who put considerable effort into maintaining their relationships navigated life's challenges with greater ease.

Director of Harvard Study of Adult Development & Psychiatrist

A pervasive sentiment among high-performing organisations is the fear of failure. I sought the opinions of numerous high performers on who they admired or found interesting and surprisingly, none mentioned a business.

I realised that my passion lay in the realm of high performance, irrespective of the context, and the sustainability of such performance was a fascinating query. This question is invariably present in the minds of leaders in great organisations.

By the time you've spoken to the 30th person, you'll have a good idea if your problem is substantial or not. Validation can be pretty straightforward. All it takes is communicating with people.

Co-founder of Waze, GPS navigation app acquired by Google

Love relationships, paradoxically, prioritize emotions above these considerations, which often turns out to be their downfall. What truly sustains us is what we mutually agree upon as beneficial and righteous, irrespective of our emotional state.

Psychotherapist & developer of Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)

I proposed that individuals should prioritize searching for the relationship they desire, not necessarily the person. The person should ideally align with the relationship dynamic you're seeking, akin to meeting the requirements of a job description.

Psychotherapist & developer of Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)

We enter into love affairs often based on our individual mythology, rather than a shared one, driven by expectations shaped by our family backgrounds. We are essentially strangers continuously striving to understand each other.

Psychotherapist & developer of Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)

We're discussing the challenging feat for our species of being both self-advocating and relationship-oriented, particularly in stressful circumstances. When stressed, we all tend to lean towards self-preservation, which may be perceived as a threat by others.

Psychotherapist & developer of Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)