Psychology

Regrets tell you what you value. We need to think about regrets as photographic negatives of the good life. Each regret reveals what we want out of life. We want stability; a good life is not precarious. We want to do something with our lives; a good life is not without boldness.

Author of "Drive" & Leading Work Culture Expert

The power of regret is that it clarifies what we value and instructs on how to do better. The fact that we have so many of these boldness regrets suggests that when people tell you what they regret they most, they are telling you what they value the most, and what most people value is growth and learning.

Author of "Drive" & Leading Work Culture Expert

We should be looking at our regrets not as meaningless, debilitating phenomena but as signals, information, and data. If we do that systematically? We can use this emotion as a transformative force for progress.

Author of "Drive" & Leading Work Culture Expert

No regrets culture is a terrible blueprint for living. The idea that you should always be positive and never look backwards is not an effective blueprint for living a decent, meaningful, happy life. It runs against everything we know about the science of emotion! Regret is one of the most common emotions that human beings experience. Everybody has regrets- the only people who don't are babies, sociopaths, and people with brain damage.

Author of "Drive" & Leading Work Culture Expert

The most important versions of love and compassion are the ones we show to ourselves. We have to start there. It's not selfish or ignorant. If you don't make space for yourself to feel loved by you, the rest is impossible… you'll always end up burned-out or in a state of resentment.

British Radio & TV Presenter, Model & Wellness Author

We have to honour all parts of ourselves; and the wellness, social-media, and culture of the modern world has encouraged us to be this faux-perfect… a virtuous, pure version of ourselves. Everyone has dark thoughts and demons… we can't suppress that and ignore it. If we do, we'll never heal.

British Radio & TV Presenter, Model & Wellness Author

When most people are asked questions, they try to jump into the other person's mind and second-guess what they're supposed to be saying. They want to sound interesting… they want to sound smart, like a mogul who's on the cover of Forbes. I just want to tell it like it is…

Reality TV Star & Founder of Skinnygirl Cocktails Brand

Most people don't know who they are. They're trying to be what other people want them to be- or they're trying to create something that fills a void that comes from within. The pressure to conform is huge right now, especially with people getting cancelled; saying what you really feel can make you unpopular… so people box themselves into a place where they're not celebrated or respected for being truthful. It's tragic.

Reality TV Star & Founder of Skinnygirl Cocktails Brand

People work for technical ability and wish for happiness. That's a mistake. You need to treat your happiness the way you treat all your skills - you need to work for your happiness - not just wish for it.

Social Scientist & Author on Happiness, Meaning, and Conservative Values

You must free yourself from the fear of losing something such that you can enjoy that something. If you're afraid of a relationship ending, you'll never be able to enjoy the relationship.

Social Scientist & Author on Happiness, Meaning, and Conservative Values

Our lives have a first and second curve. The first is your me curve - fluid intelligence that peaks around 40. The second is your we curve - your wisdom, teaching, and ability to bring out the best in others. It requires you to serve others.

Social Scientist & Author on Happiness, Meaning, and Conservative Values

The fruit of addiction to success is redefining yourself in terms of one activity. When you take that away, there's a deep loss of identity. To the striver, that addiction is success. It activates the same neurobiology and dopamine pathways as alcohol or drugs.

Social Scientist & Author on Happiness, Meaning, and Conservative Values

The world is lying to you. It tells you that in 10,000 hours you can become excellent at what you do and that your strength will never wane. That is a complete, utter, falsehood. At some point, the greatness that came to define who 'you' are will wane.

Social Scientist & Author on Happiness, Meaning, and Conservative Values

Numerous studies including recent ones from Stanford and Harvard Universities show that young girls, by the age of six, in the U.S. feel they are less intellectually capable than boys. Why? Because when they open a history book, they are predominantly exposed to male innovators.

We go to war not because we ignore the costs, but because we know there are costs, but we are willing to pay those costs because we get something from the war which we wouldn't get otherwise.

Economist specializing in conflict, development, and poverty research

There is a famous Iraqi idiom which states that if you think your opponents can eat you for dinner, then you'd better eat them for lunch. If your opponent is too big and powerful to eat you right-now, you'd better eat them for lunch before they eat you. Commitment problems from our opponents lead us to act, and that's another reason why rational man can go to war.

Economist specializing in conflict, development, and poverty research